tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post6254445006659109134..comments2023-04-13T15:45:42.290+01:00Comments on Debs Riccio: And how do you feel about that?Debs Ricciohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10837598374947020855noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-61563839330121646922010-10-25T12:47:18.601+01:002010-10-25T12:47:18.601+01:00Helen, thanks for the kind words. I sincerely hop...Helen, thanks for the kind words. I sincerely hope that this helps me as much as it clearly helped you. I literally have to force myself to go every week because I don't see the point, or an end... still. Or should that be 'yet'?Debs Ricciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837598374947020855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-68776653691947472712010-10-24T21:05:09.303+01:002010-10-24T21:05:09.303+01:00When I went for counselling I was almost ashamed t...When I went for counselling I was almost ashamed to think *I* was going when people with far bigger problems in life were just getting on with it.<br /><br />Also, I wondered if it was helping. I didn't know how much it helped until something terrible happened a few years ago. It gave me coping mechanisms to deal with it all. <br /><br />So let me (along with the others above) reassure you Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13315275929031953790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-58186693879330720132010-10-19T19:34:46.489+01:002010-10-19T19:34:46.489+01:00Thanks NWBI, I do feel like I'm having mini-mo...Thanks NWBI, I do feel like I'm having mini-moments - hopefully there's a breakthrough one on it's way!Debs Ricciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837598374947020855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-58181266847452043782010-10-19T14:43:00.127+01:002010-10-19T14:43:00.127+01:00I think it'll be worth it in the long-run, Deb...I think it'll be worth it in the long-run, Debs (says the woman who practically threw a party when her own car died last year, so she didn't have to, like, drive any more). I HATE driving but am starting to miss the convenience of it all. You were bloody unlucky with what happened to you, that's all. Keep going - it might be a while before there's a 'breakthrough.' xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-47997378079589111222010-10-18T16:27:45.499+01:002010-10-18T16:27:45.499+01:00Talli, and Lane -thanks so much for your comments ...Talli, and Lane -thanks so much for your comments - I think I have let a lot of stuff 'fester' in the past - maybe I'm at the Spring Cleaning stage in my life and I need to get rid of the crap... 'they' say everything happens for a reason, right?Debs Ricciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837598374947020855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-29853065524348190782010-10-18T10:16:40.427+01:002010-10-18T10:16:40.427+01:00I think it takes a lot of time and courage to work...I think it takes a lot of time and courage to work out 'how we feel about that' about many things. I admire your commitment to 'working it out' as it's often easier to just to let stuff fester.<br /><br />Keep going Debs. You're normal and you're not wasting <i>anyone's</i> time. xLane Mathiashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08147122748453850264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-23635512126312015052010-10-16T18:07:22.946+01:002010-10-16T18:07:22.946+01:00I agree - you're normal! I'm sure I could ...I agree - you're normal! I'm sure I could not talk for 50 minutes with no self-doubt or incriminating voices in my head.Talli Rolandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04780882465745107715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-82669035974738273352010-10-16T11:33:11.618+01:002010-10-16T11:33:11.618+01:00Oh Jacqui, your comment just made me cry... just t...Oh Jacqui, your comment just made me cry... just that little "I'm proud of you" bit - can you adopt me and keep telling me this please?xDebs Ricciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837598374947020855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-55732441857377891182010-10-16T11:30:24.697+01:002010-10-16T11:30:24.697+01:00Yes you are normal, Debs :-) loads of people feel ...Yes you are normal, Debs :-) loads of people feel this way about counselling. IMHO it stems from a need for solid answers (to prove it's 'working') because we're all so used to tangible 'outcomes' measurements of success. <br />I think counselling works on a different level of existence where we can just 'be'. It's a level that we aren't monitoring all the Jacqueline Christodoulou-Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17318598645550765618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-39925761691232619802010-10-16T10:22:48.312+01:002010-10-16T10:22:48.312+01:00Oh bless you, Stella, that's already made me f...Oh bless you, Stella, that's already made me feel a load better. See... all I need is a little bit of understanding and encouragement. Thanks xDebs Ricciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837598374947020855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-65460564788971060472010-10-15T19:49:36.650+01:002010-10-15T19:49:36.650+01:00I think you're perfectly normal. I read the mo...I think you're perfectly normal. I read the most fantastic novel once about a women who, even though she wasn't religious, ran a prayer group. She didn't think that praying was doing her any good but in fact, the more she "prayed for" her loved, the more and more enlightened she became about her life and those around her without even knowing it. You remind me of her. You'Ms Machttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08363385142330348970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-18275567083446512502010-10-15T19:05:31.361+01:002010-10-15T19:05:31.361+01:00Diane, thanks for the blog-compliment (blog-plimen...Diane, thanks for the blog-compliment (blog-pliment?) I know what you mean, and they do say everything stems from childhood - maybe my true answer does lie back there...<br />Clodagh, I was a royal pain in the arse at parties - not competitive, just miserable if I didn't Do Good. (haven't changed have I?!)Debs Ricciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837598374947020855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-4990222828211845592010-10-15T18:45:26.986+01:002010-10-15T18:45:26.986+01:00Oh my God, I'd forgotten about the 'guess ...Oh my God, I'd forgotten about the 'guess what's missing off the tray' game! They don't have parties like that any more. *Sigh*<br /><br />(Sorry - so not the point, I know. You're not the only one who can deviate.)<br /><br />When you learn meditation, they say you don't have to feel like it's working for it to be working. Maybe therapy's the same?Clodaghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11030171632393814322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454291867854248886.post-43690660732951789142010-10-15T18:24:48.638+01:002010-10-15T18:24:48.638+01:00You are normal. :)
Honestly, you'd be surpris...You are normal. :)<br /><br />Honestly, you'd be surprised how many people feel the same way (and if that's mad, there's a lot of us about). <br /><br />I know you wanted coping techniques etc, but I really think exploring feelings is often a better way to go than trying to convince yourself you feel better when you don't. (Not that I've had years of experience in this regard.diane shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13034585150659005699noreply@blogger.com